You know how you can rationally understand what's going on or what you need to do, but then you're just not able to act upon it? Most of the time, it's because a certain emotion gets in the way.
I've become pretty good at transforming the things that come into play for me because I have the tools and know how to go about it. However, on the other hand, I can be quite stubborn, and sometimes that doesn't really help. Haha!
Let me explain this to you.
One of my biggest triggers is when someone tells me what I need to do.
We all react differently to different triggers, right? (More on this in my podcast episode "Triggers are Teachers.")
When that happens, I get angry. Then I tend to point the finger at the other person: "They don't have the right," "They shouldn't do that," "They should just leave me be."
Anyway, the anger blocks everything! I feel wronged, and that makes me stubborn. So, at that point, I don't have the space in my being to see things from the other person's perspective.
What I actually need to do at that point is give space to my anger ;-)
But because of my stubbornness, giving space to that anger even feels as if I am "giving in." I am telling you! Anger is the most difficult emotion for me, and it's something I am learning to deal with.
As I said, I recognize this whole dynamic.
Now, in these situations, it's a matter of acting upon what I rationally know is good for me to do:
- Giving space to the anger
- Reflecting on where I was triggered and where my boundaries lie.
What do you do when you are angry or when you feel triggered?
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This text was shared in Ama's newsletter on November 21st, 2023. Once in a while Ama shares one of her newsletters on her website.
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