When you see this picture of me, what do you think? How do you think I am doing?
Can you really know how I am doing just by looking at this picture?
That’s what I want to talk about today!
The other day, I was chatting with someone online, and we were sharing updates about our lives and how we were doing.
The person said,” Hey, you look so happy, and it seems everything is flowing and going well for you!” I hear that often.
I told the person I was going through a hard time, which is true. I am feeling more tired than usual; my energy level is different. I am less motivated, and I have these sudden crying episodes.
For me, these periods are always challenging as I like “forward action” — being busy with my passions, creating things, and doing things ;-) I know this period won’t last forever; nonetheless, at this point, I am being asked to slow down. I know this is one of my life lessons and a tough one to learn.
You would think living in Ghana would have changed all of this for me, as the rhythm in Ghana is generally a bit slower than in Europe.
But I was reminded that it doesn’t matter where you live; you take your problems, your issues, and your lessons with you ;-) Just like your talents, your gifts, and your blessings!
I grew up in a society where it’s good to be productive and always work — the hustle and bustle culture. You are seen as lazy if you’re doing nothing. So, it is normal that these energies live within me. It is normal that it takes a while to unlearn.
How is this for you?
Is it easy for you to rest and relax?
What are the lessons you’re trying to learn?
Anyway, why am I sharing this?
Well, because nothing is what it seems — it rarely is.
In the age of social media, we have a distorted image of how people are doing. The fact that someone is smiling, sharing great news, or traveling to beautiful places doesn’t mean the person is doing well. Often, the more we are connected online, the more we are disconnected offline.
Everyone has their process.
A lot happens behind closed doors.
We are quick to make conclusions or assumptions.
But I believe we don’t need to go through this alone.
If you take the time to ask someone how s/he is doing — how the person is really doing — if you listen and you are present, and you even ask if there is something you can do (if you feel you have space for that right now), it would help so much! More than you think!
And, if you are in the same boat as me, know things change and won’t stay as they are.
This is easier when you accept it is what it is right now instead of fighting it (I know, easier said than done!). Check out how you can work with me, it might be supportive to you !
This text was shared in Ama's newsletter on May 2nd, 2023.
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